One of the worst emotions a human being can experience is regret. We all know that moment. Perhaps, we said or did something we wish we didn’t do. We may get overwhelmed with guilt and anxiety, and feel like our world is about to come crashing down. We feel helpless and incapable of fixing the situation. In fact, in most cases we really can’t fix anything. Actions do have consequences. We may lose a job or a relationship, or even our health and well-being. None of these things, however, have to be catastrophic. Life is series of ups and downs. Nothing is ever permanent and everything enters or leaves our lives for a reason. Sometimes losing one thing opens you up to something else. It may be a lesson that helps you be more effective and happier in the future, or it could be a new possibility you never even thought to seek. Perhaps, losing your job may inspire you to finally work on that dream project you’ve been putting off. Or injuring yourself while training for competition may make you a world class trainer instead. Whatever your situation is, it is never the end of your world.
You only have to look back to your past and realize how many of these setbacks you’ve already experienced and remember what they’ve taught you and how they’ve made you the person you are today. It’s this same gratitude and craving for inspiration that led us to pursue our dream of making the world’s best motivational workout shirts and building a community around them. What dream is waiting just beyond your last mistake, blocked by regret?
Although it may be difficult to accept the situation as is and realize that something beautiful may come out of it, we hope that our six reasons for giving up regrets will help you get back to your happy place.
So many of us are so scared to make a mistake that we end up doing nothing. Because if we do - and we screw up - it will be the most terrifying thing ever. Reality is, you are allowed and even encouraged to make mistakes. Your screw ups make you wiser and stronger; they teach you how to do better next time.
Regret focuses on your losses. Missed opportunities, bad decisions, failed relationships.. List goes on and on. When you spend your time and energy focusing on your regrets you rob yourself of a chance to have a happy, thankful state at this very moment. Your life is short, make sure you count your blessings, not your losses.
Despite the advances in our technology, time travel is still not something that your iPhone can do. When you dwell on your past mistakes and missed opportunities, you are wasting your energy on something that can no longer be fixed. You cannot return back and undo whatever it is that’s causing you pain today. What you can do instead is to focus your energies on learning your lesson and moving on.
When it comes to forgiveness, most of us will readily forgive our loved ones, but we may have the hardest time ever forgiving ourselves. We are, indeed, our worst critics. Holding on to your regrets is an indication that you have not forgiven yourself. Understand your mistake, learn from it and let it go. You know you’ll do better next time.
In the midst of a major screw up the last thing you may think is that you will be able to ever be happy again. Truth is, every day is your opportunity to try again. Losing a relationship may open a door to a better, healthier one. Becoming ill may help you change your lifestyle and be more mindful of your nutrition and fitness. Life goes on, and before your know it you will be back on your feet again.
Good things, bad things... They come and go. All we are left to do is enjoy the good things while we have them and power through the bad ones remembering that they are too temporary. Your mistakes and their consequences are temporary too. Having regrets only extends your time in misery. Know that all that matters is today, and don’t let your past steal your future.
Do you trust yourself? Most of us don't ask that question too often as we naturally tend to think that we all do. What many of us don't realize is that your level of self-trust can be different about different things. You may trust your instincts and yourself in some things, like driving your car or caring for pets, for example. But what about when it comes to making big commitments or decisions? Do you trust your intuition and reasoning to make decisions that are actually yours and makeYOU happy and not someone else?
No matter how you handled yesterday, there is nothing you can do about it now. Whatever tomorrow has to offer has yet to be unveiled – and you have no control over it. The only time you can control is NOW – so bring your A-GAME and make the best of it.
You may think you can just do it tomorrow – but tomorrow is a myth because there is always a tomorrow. If you are not going to do it now, then you may never actually get around to doing it. Make the best of the now and get right to what you planned to do.