|For each and every one of us, life is full of ups and downs. Tough times are inevitable — whether you're dealing with a serious health problem, a financial crisis or the loss of a loved one. It's during those tough times that your mental strength will be tested. It’s naïve to believe life will treat you any differently simply because you are a good person. When life throws you a curveball, if you lack adequate mental strength — challenges can fill you with self-doubt and anxiety. Those feelings, in turn, can then lead to negative thinking. This will affect your behavior, which can inadvertently turn your catastrophic predictions into a self-fulfilling prophecy. Staying strong in the midst of hardship requires you to manage your thoughts, feelings and behavior. It's never easy, however, there are certain steps you can take to ensure you conquer whatever crisis you are going through.
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Accept the reality
You don’t have to agree with it or feel OK about whatever it is you are experiencing. But wasting your valuable time on thoughts such as, “It shouldn’t have happened to me," is not productive. If you are not working toward fixing the situation, then why complain about it? Accept reality for what it is. Life is unfair and sometimes things happen to us that we can’t understand. Finding peace and happiness in life does not mean there are no challenges. It means remaining calm and centered in the midst of problems. It’s about letting go of the pictures in your head about how things were "supposed to be" and accepting things for what they really are. Accepting reality is about recognizing what's within your control. When you can't control the situation, focus on controlling yourself.
Your character is shown not by your words, but by your actions. Once you accept the reality, you need to act accordingly. Throwing a pity party or complaining non-stop are not examples of productive behavior. Negative behavior will rob you of your mental strength and waste your time. Even if you are faced with a problem that you can’t solve, you can still decide how you are going to respond to it.
Know that everything is temporary
It seems that most of us are constantly fighting for things to be 100% secure and never-changing, but that’s not really how life works. Everything in life is temporary and ever-changing. Our very lives are temporary. The challenge in life is learning to embrace, accept and respect this. The good news is, the tough situation you are facing today will be gone one day. Rainy days won't last forever. Remind yourself of all your past setbacks and how they came and went. The same fate awaits your current challenge.
Do you trust yourself? Most of us don't ask that question too often as we naturally tend to think that we all do. What many of us don't realize is that your level of self-trust can be different about different things. You may trust your instincts and yourself in some things, like driving your car or caring for pets, for example. But what about when it comes to making big commitments or decisions? Do you trust your intuition and reasoning to make decisions that are actually yours and makeYOU happy and not someone else?
No matter how you handled yesterday, there is nothing you can do about it now. Whatever tomorrow has to offer has yet to be unveiled – and you have no control over it. The only time you can control is NOW – so bring your A-GAME and make the best of it.
You may think you can just do it tomorrow – but tomorrow is a myth because there is always a tomorrow. If you are not going to do it now, then you may never actually get around to doing it. Make the best of the now and get right to what you planned to do.