TAKE RESPONSIBILITY April 08, 2019 08:18
THERE IS A PEICE OF THE FOUNDATION TO SUCCESS, AND THAT IS RESPONSIBILITY. IT IS THE ACTION OF OWNING WHAT HAS OR HAS NOT HAPPENED IN REGARDS TO OUR CHOICES AND OUR GOALS. IT IS THE EXPRESSION OF ACCOUNTABILITY WHEN MISTAKES HAPPEN, OR WHEN WE HAVE FAILED. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY ALLOWS US TO GROW AND LEARN, IT IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO DEVELOP CHARACTER. MANY TIMES IT IS THE PROCESS IN WHICH RECEIVED BLAME, OR THE COACH, OR THE PERSONAL TRAINER, EVEN THE BOSS, OR THE TEAM. THE FACT IS, YOUR GOAL IS YOUR GOAL; IT STARTS AND ENDS WITH YOU. YOUR COMMITMENT AND YOUR CHOICE. OWN THE PROCESS, OWN YOURSELF, AND OWN YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
There you are, looking in the mirror, asking yourself what went wrong? How did this happen? I don’t understand what is going on. As you stare blankly into the mirror, your immediate response is to fire back with every excuse you can conceptualize and then dictate to yourself to give justification for this moment. This is where many will go wrong. This moment is actually a pivotal moment in the growth process. It is a moment where you have tried, attempted, ventured and dared; and ultimately failed. Why is it then that the immediate reaction is to justify the faults, to create excuses to the mistakes, to fabricate this fictitious supernova of bullshit to make ourselves feel less accountable for what has happened. Why does this moment become so clouded with stress, pressure, and the need for vindication. All we are doing is creating a victim, a victim of our own circumstance.
“More People would learn from their mistakes if they would stop denying them.”
This moment should be and can be a vital lesson to you. It is a point where the pendulum can sway and it can knock you on your ass, leaving you feeling broken and unsure. Or, it can knock you down and you can look back up and around at the mess that you are in. You can now assess why this happened and what you need to adjust, and you start building up again. You can take this learning curve and further bend it to your advantage. You can see plainly what went wrong now, hence the scattered pieces of your mistake. Take this opportunity and learn your way out of it. There is an even bigger event that is taking place here, and you will realize it at this decision point. What you have done, is you have taken responsibility for yourself, in the process of your growth.
There is a fine line between failing and giving up. Failing is absolutely inevitable, it is guaranteed in this life that you will experience it. Now giving up, that is a choice, and it is entirely on you if you give up. There is no blame to be passed, no excuse to be justified, no reason to clarify it. You do not pass GO and collect 200$ and a “get out of jail free” card. It is on you, and that is another aspect of taking responsibility. Do you want to take responsibility for quitting? Are you willing to own that, is that what your life is about? An easy existence, without challenge, something that requires no struggle or sacrifice. Are you the type of person, were at the first stumble you just stop and play it safe to avoid the disappointment. Well this life is hard, and this world can be cruel, and sorry to say it but, you will be disappointed a time or two. Yet there is a disappointment that comes with regret, and that is something we can control. The fact remains, you embarked on something, you began a path, a journey, you had a goal in mind. Part of the process that we go through in regard to achievement, is accountability. Which is the state or action of being responsible. We must be responsible in maintaining our commitment to the process and to the goal. These faults and fails and mistakes are your greatest guide through all of it. The responsibility that comes with accountability is your personal ownership of your actions, decisions, choices, and of course, your mistakes. Don’t be fooled by discouragement, as that is the catalyst to regret.
“Accept responsibility for your actions. Be accountable for your results. Take ownership of your mistakes. The key is to take responsibility and initiative in deciding what your life is about.”
We all want results, but we also don’t want the struggle that comes with it, now be honest, many think and feel this. We do live in a world of instant gratification, and we have a societal flaw of “if it doesn’t work, then it is the process that didn’t work, not the person.” It isn’t my fault that this diet didn’t work, it's not my fault I didn’t hit my PR, it's not my fault I didn’t put on ten more pounds.It is the system in which I was executing that didn’t work… WAKE UP CALL, it is no ones fault but your own, but, in that there is your answer. You can define the issue by admitting there was a fault, fail, deviation or mistake. That personal lesson will now be your teacher in the next go around. Yes, get back up and try again. You need to trust the process and own it. You must also own you, your actions, your decisions, your choices. The very things you do, and don’t do. It all comes down to taking responsibility for yourself. It is easy to claim responsibility when you have succeeded or achieved, but what about the greater showing of personal growth, which is when we fail. One of the greatest and most basic concepts of growth is by breaking something down and building it back up. Each instance of the break down builds a greater understanding of construction and repair to the entity being broken. If you want results, keep going, keep trying. Put in the work! You say you want a great body, but do you have it? You say you want to lose weight, but have you? You say you want to deadlift 500 lbs or compete in the spring, but have you, did you? If you don’t have these things, then why don’t you? You either have the results you say that you want, or you just have the excuses to why you don’t.It is about mindset, and owning your commitment to your goal and seeing this through. Taking responsibility for yourself. Deciding what your life is going to be about?
Is your life about making mistakes over and over and over, while learning from them. At the same time continuously advancing to finally achieving your goal, your ideal state; all from pursuing through your mistakes and failures, being responsible and owning the process.
Or, is your life about trying something, making an attempt. Then finding out it isn’t working for you, so you move on to something else; and you try and attempt again. Then you try and attempt again. Try, attempt, try, attempt, and then move on again and again.
One of these paths leads us to a full life, a sense of purpose and value, worth and fulfillment. While the other path, well, that just leads us to a lot of half empty cups.
“We are all flawed heroes. Responsibility is power. Take responsibility for that which you do and don’t do, and success is yours. Everything is a choice.”